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Diamonds - Getting Into Shape
What does a diamond’s shape tell about
the wearer?
A palm reader supposedly
can tell you your future and a numerologist says they can do the
same thing by adding and subtracting the numbers of the day, month
and year you were born. An astrologer goes so far as to say they
can tell you who you are, where your future lies and what you’re
going to have for lunch by what moon phase was in what orbit when
you were born!
According to all
these mystics, who we are and why we do what we do is all predetermined
by fate. All we have to do is know how to read the signs to tell
us what path our lives will follow and what our final destination
will be.
“Yeah, right!” you’re probably
saying, “I am the captain of my own ship and the creator of
my own destiny.” Well maybe so, but how can you explain every
time you check your daily astrology guide they seem to be pretty
accurate? Lucky guess? Maybe. So vague it could apply to anyone?
Maybe. Or maybe it’s just as simple as thought creates reality.
If you are told something and you believe it, I guess it doesn’t
make a difference whether it’s true or not. If it’s true
for you, even if it’s just a perception, it’s your reality,
your truth.
Now, probably at this point you’re thinking,
if you’re still reading… What the heck does this conversation
have to do with diamonds and for that matter what does it have to
do with a title “Getting into Shape?” which I know you
have figured out, doesn’t mean doing twenty push-ups or jumping
jacks. What we are delving into here is why women get into or choose
one shape diamond over another. That’s what I’m getting
to. Believe it or not, what shape a woman chooses for an engagement
ring tells a lot about the woman doing the wearing.
After almost two
decades of watching women choose different shapes and sizes I found
that certain personality types tend to gravitate towards one particular
shape or another. I’ve also found that certain shapes tend
to have a higher divorce rate than other shapes! Oh, I’ve got
your interest now have I? Yes, I’ve actually been able to graph
which shapes tend to have the highest divorce rates, which ones
result in the best marriages and which ones are more likely to fool
around!
Am I crazy? Probably.
Sane is just plain boring. But if you’re interested in one
guy’s observations, here it goes. Astrologers, numerologists,
palm readers, and tarot card readers step aside. (Drum roll please)
I’d like to introduce for the audience’s enjoyment the
wonderful world of Dia-shape-ology!
Disclaimer:
The following is just a test, in case of a real emergency you will
be instructed where to go and what to do, this is only a test.
Fill out the following
questionnaire and answer honestly to determine what your diamond
says about you.
Question
#1: Do you have a diamond? (Circle
One)
Yes No (If no please
stop taking this test.)
Question
#2: What shape diamond do you have?
Question #3: What size diamond do you have?
(Circle One)
A. Microscopic
B. Nice Size
C. A Boulder
D. I can’t lift my hand from the weight.
Question #4: How long have you had your
diamond? (Circle One)
A. Less than 2 years
B. 2-5 years
C. 5-7 years
D. I can’t remember it's been so long.
Question #5: Are you still with the person
who gave you the diamond? (Circle One)
Yes No (If you bought it yourself, the answer
will always be yes.)
Question #6: How often do you clean your
diamond? (Circle One)
A. Once a day
B. Once a week
C. When it gets dirty
D. I’m supposed to clean my diamond?
Question #7: Pick the statement that best
describes your relationship with your diamond. (Circle One)
A. I will keep my diamond till the day I die,
we are inseparable.
B. I will keep my diamond till the day I die unless
something better comes along.
Check the following answer guide to see how you’ve
done and determine what your diamond means to you and what it says
to the world about the person you are.
P.S. If you liked this piece, I receive my fan
mail at fred@diamondcuttersintl.com
and if you didn’t, I was kidnapped two weeks ago and forced
to write this against my will.
ANSWERS
Question #1: Obviously for the purpose
of this exercise having a diamond is a prerequisite. Not to say
that if you are not the owner of a diamond you are any less loved
and appreciated. It just seems that way.
Question #2: Here’s the meat and potatoes;
the meaning of the top shapes:
Round – Congratulations! Round is
the most popular, faithful, traditional and religious. Most round
wearers chose a round for its clean lines and symmetry. The idea
that a circle has no beginning and no end adds to the romance of
a round. Round wearers tend to be old fashioned, honest with values
and beliefs they would fight for. The only down side to some that
choose a round is their lack of spontaneity and leadership abilities.
Round wearers tend to be more team players than team leaders. If
a round wearer is married, her main goal in keeping a long loving
relationship is to not be afraid of change.
Oval – Look, you would have gotten
a round if everyone in your family including your aunt Gertrude
didn’t have one. You have all the same values of a round but
there is something inside you that cries out to be different and
not go with the crowd. Oval wearers make great wives! On one side
they are predictable, stable and dependable but every now and then
they have a wild hair and let loose! If not the poor brilliancy
of an oval I believe a lot more women would be in this camp.
Pear – Where round wearers tend to
go with the crowd pear wearers want to create the crowd. Pear wearers
pure and simple want to be different. If better comes along with
the package so be it. Pear wearers tend to be more demanding and
higher maintenance. Everything has to be just right or don’t
do it at all is their battle call. Pear wearers are the third most
likely to get a divorce. (Top two coming up.) Due to, in many cases
forgetting that happiness isn’t always asking “What’s
in it for me?” The happily married pear wearer never forgets
that there is no I in TEAM and applies the same standards of excellence
to herself as to her partner.
Emerald Cut – Here’s a tough
nut to crack. Emerald Cut wearers are old fashioned like round wearers
but being in the crowd, following the crowd is not the drum beat
that they follow. In fact, the interesting thing about Emerald Cut
wearers is their lack of rationale to do anything to impress others.
Not that other people’s opinions don’t count, it’s
just that they don’t see themselves through the eyes of others.
Emerald Cut wearers are leaders. They are attracted to an Emerald
Cut for its quiet elegance, its regal temperament and bold strokes.
The Emerald Cut wearer doesn’t need pop to sell her diamond,
that’s what she is there for.
Princess & Radiants – Princess
and Radiant wearers are electric. They are fun, exciting, cutting
edge and not afraid to take chances. They live life to the fullest.
Since Princess and Radiant are the most sparkly shapes, wearers
of these rocks don’t mind bringing attention to themselves.
They love the spotlight. Whitney Houston for example is a proud
wearer of a radiant. The only time Princess and Radiant wearers
split up with their mates are if the guy can’t keep up.
Heart Shape – The heart shape A.K.A.
“Black Widow” and “Three Strikes”, holds the
title of the least sparkly, second highest divorce rate and the
most cheated upon diamond in the group. Hence the alias “Three
Strikes”. A lot of analysis has gone into why this diamond
and its wearer have so much trouble, but I think it can best be
explained on what type of woman and couple gravitate towards the
heart; pure romantics. And when I say pure romantics, I’m not
just saying soulmates, I’m talking maple syrup, knight in shining
armor, Romeo and Juliet kind of romantic. Heart shape people tend
to live in fantasyland. Their motto is love conquers all, love has
no restrictions, love has no boundaries. Then they get married and
quickly find out that even though love in its own little world is
perfect, life isn’t. Life isn’t fair or just or even handed.
Life equals change. The heart shape wearer tends to have a problem
with this. If love is perfect, no need for change and certainly
no need for reality. So when they come to the conclusion that their
mate isn’t perfect (he never was, nobody is) and discover pure
love doesn’t seem to pay the bills, they flee; into the arms
of another, into another job, into another life constantly searching
for the equation of pure love equals perfect life, which doesn’t
exist.
Marquise – The Marquise for all its
grandeur and magnificence (one of the largest looking shapes) is
the crown jewel for divorce. Even more so than the heart. Heck,
at least the heart had good intentions. Marquise wearers tend to
be very concerned with first impressions, second impressions, all
impressions. They are very goal oriented and certainly believe size
matters. Marquise wearers believe in division and better than. There
is the wrong side of the tracks and it’s never the side they
are on. A lot of socialites and wanna-be socialites choose Marquise
because they look bigger than they really are when cut right. And
that’s where the problem is. Marquise wearers, not all, but
quite a few spend the better part of their lives trying to be something
or someone they are not. Success never lies in not being and loving
who you are. For a Marquise wearer to survive she must realize that
regardless of how nice a package is, it always fades away; Inner
beauty doesn’t.
Question #3: What actual carat size you
have is irrelevant to how you perceive it. To some people the one
carat diamond they have is puny. For others, it’s the rock
of Gibraltar. But that’s the key here, not what you have but
how you perceive it. Is the glass half full or half empty? It appears
that the happiest marriages tend to be those in which the engagement
diamond is viewed as magnificent and substantial. The minute a woman
finds fault in the rock or lack of it, it’s not long before
she finds fault in the giver. Want to appreciate your diamond? Just
think of the one out of three women who got married and didn’t
get one.
Question #4: If you had to write a list
of all the things you want, how long a list would it be? Long? Short?
How about a list of all the things you need? Long? Short? The three
steps for creation are thought, word, and action. To get anything
done you have to think it, verbalize it, then take action. When
you announce to the world there are things you need and want or
expect you cannot be whole till you get them. And if your brain
perceives that it is without or not whole it won’t be happy.
The key to any long term happiness is not getting everything you
want, but wanting everything you have. The longer you’ve had
your diamond and the longer you appreciate it, the better your life
and marriage will be. The diamond is a symbol of where you were
and where you are going. To always embrace your past as you do your
present will empower you to learn from your experiences and not
repeat those events that no longer define who you are today.
Question #5: Well, I think this one is
pretty self-explanatory. If the diamond is a symbol of two that
have joined to become one and one of you is not on the scene any
more, chances are your rock means very little to you today.
Question #6: To have and to hold doesn’t
necessarily equate with to love and to cherish. I’ve lined
up a hundred couples and asked them the condition of their marriage
and relationship and I found a direct correlation between clean
rings and great marriages and filthy rings and relationships that
no longer connected or were drifting apart. Just a coincidence?
Could be. Or maybe it’s that any good marriage takes work,
care and effort. Marriage isn’t easy. When a problem arises,
a lot of people just let it go, thinking it will fix itself. It
won’t. A clean ring will always get dirty unless you don’t
allow it. A good marriage will do the same unless you work at it
and keep the dust off.
Question #7: Fifty-four percent of women
who receive an engagement ring say they would never get rid of their
original engagement ring. They would keep it till they die. Forty-six
percent however, say that even though they have fond memories of
their original engagement ring, they wouldn’t keep the first
car they ever had or first home they ever had! If better comes along
they will snatch it! That being said, here’s how the divorce
bug attacks each group. Seventy-five percent in group one “The
I’ll keep it forever” folks tend to stay married while
eighty percent in group two are splitsville.
by Fred Cuellar,
author of the best-selling book "How to Buy a Diamond." More questions?
Ask the Diamond Guy®
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