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Why Won’t the Question Pop?
Someone once said the only two things certain
in life are death and taxes. I think either of these absolutes could
be argued. But that’s for another discussion. If however, I
could add one more absolute it would be our search for happiness.
I think it’s a fair statement to say we all want to be happy.
In fact I’d go so far to say that some people spend their entire
lives in search for it.
Some people believe money will make them happy,
friends, family will make them happy. Some believe when they find
that perfect mate happiness will blossom. Then when that perfect
mate pops the question you’ll have someone to share your life
with forever and ever. That sounds good doesn’t it? No loneliness,
just sharing, loving and joy. But I’m getting too away from
the title of this article, “Why won’t the question pop?”
If you’re in a relationship, exchanged “I
love you’s” why won’t he jump over the broom and
pop the question? Does time have something to do with it? Maybe
a lack of commitment. Maybe he hasn’t cut the apron string
from his mother. Maybe he was in a bad relationship and needs time
to heal. Maybe he’s never been in a relationship and doesn’t
understand the rules. Maybe he’s saving up for a big rock and
doesn’t have the last payment yet. Or maybe the question was
never supposed to pop in the first place.
Ever hear the saying, “a watched pot will
never boil?” Love doesn’t come with a rulebook. In fact,
if it did I probably wouldn’t play. Love doesn’t wait
for anything or anybody. Love just is. Love isn’t a question,
an answer, an agreement or a proposition. Love just is.
Are you wondering when your man is going to pop
the question? Well maybe you should stop worrying. If your man has
to think about whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with
you he’s not the one. And if you think a ring on your finger
is going to some how magically change your love for each other,
you’re wrong. The question you should be asking yourself is,
“Am I happy when I’m with him? Does he build me up when
I’m feeling down? Does he help me smile when I’d rather
frown?” Love isn’t a question. Love just is.
Now I’ll be the first to admit that life
equals change and relationships must change also or they will grow
old. We must reinvent ourselves everyday to show the world who we
are and what we represent. But does a woman need a man? I hope not.
If you ask the rich, the famous, the philosophers
they will probably tell you happiness is not found in possessions
or even a person. Happiness is found in sharing, not needing! Let
me repeat that again, happiness is found in sharing, not needing.
If you need a man, you’ll push him away. If you need a job,
you’ll lose it. If you need money, you won’t have it.
The act of needing admits to the world you are without. Instead
try sharing yourself, sharing your love, sharing your happiness.
You cannot share something you do not possess.
Why won’t the question pop? If you need it
to, it won’t. Strong relationships are built on sharing not
dependency. Show your man you can stand on your own two feet then
you can ask the real important question, “Why should he be
asking the question anyway?”
by Fred Cuellar the Diamond Guy®
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