Someone once said the only two things certain in life are death and taxes. I think either of these absolutes could be argued. But that’s for another discussion. If however, I could add one more absolute it would be our search for happiness. I think it’s a fair statement to say we all want to be happy. In fact I’d go so far to say that some people spend their entire lives in search for it.
Some people believe money will make them happy, friends, family will make them happy. Some believe when they find that perfect mate happiness will blossom. Then when that perfect mate pops the question you’ll have someone to share your life with forever and ever. That sounds good doesn’t it? No loneliness, just sharing, loving and joy. But I’m getting too away from the title of this article, “Why won’t the question pop?”
If you’re in a relationship, exchanged “I love you’s” why won’t he jump over the broom and pop the question? Does time have something to do with it? Maybe a lack of commitment. Maybe he hasn’t cut the apron string from his mother. Maybe he was in a bad relationship and needs time to heal. Maybe he’s never been in a relationship and doesn’t understand the rules. Maybe he’s saving up for a big rock and doesn’t have the last payment yet. Or maybe the question was never supposed to pop in the first place.
Ever hear the saying, “a watched pot will never boil?” Love doesn’t come with a rulebook. In fact, if it did I probably wouldn’t play. Love doesn’t wait for anything or anybody. Love just is. Love isn’t a question, an answer, an agreement or a proposition. Love just is.
Are you wondering when your man is going to pop the question? Well maybe you should stop worrying. If your man has to think about whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with you he’s not the one. And if you think a ring on your finger is going to some how magically change your love for each other, you’re wrong. The question you should be asking yourself is, “Am I happy when I’m with him? Does he build me up when I’m feeling down? Does he help me smile when I’d rather frown?” Love isn’t a question. Love just is.
Now I’ll be the first to admit that life equals change and relationships must change also or they will grow old. We must reinvent ourselves everyday to show the world who we are and what we represent. But does a woman need a man? I hope not.
If you ask the rich, the famous, the philosophers they will probably tell you happiness is not found in possessions or even a person. Happiness is found in sharing, not needing! Let me repeat that again, happiness is found in sharing, not needing. If you need a man, you’ll push him away. If you need a job, you’ll lose it. If you need money, you won’t have it. The act of needing admits to the world you are without. Instead try sharing yourself, sharing your love, sharing your happiness. You cannot share something you do not possess.
Why won’t the question pop? If you need it to, it won’t. Strong relationships are built on sharing not dependency. Show your man you can stand on your own two feet then you can ask the real important question, “Why should he be asking the question anyway?”
by Fred Cuellar the Diamond Guy®
